Book Corner: Sex In Marriage is Not OK

Sex In Marriage is Not OK – It’s Amazing!

I was given the chance to review Sex In Marriage is Not OK – It’s Amazing! when an internet friend sent it to me. Despite an all five star review on Amazon.com (granted it’s only 7 reviews, but still) I wasn’t all that impressed with the book.Ã‚Â It seemed to me, like reading a college term paper with Jr. High humor inserted into it to lighten the subject. It was poorly written from the viewpoint of a published book, and the type set itself, lent an air of unprofessionalism to entire book.

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Authors Phyllis and Glenn Hill do talk openly and candidly about a topic that many in the church avoid. What most are afraid to address, they dive right into, no hold barred. If I was a newlywed that had a hard time talking about sex, Phyllis is a woman I might be drawn towards, just because she’s so open to the topic.

They focus on the importance of sex within marriage and make it clear that they feel those who say it’s not that important, are way off base. Good for them!Ã‚Â I too agree, that sex is important and to say it isn’t, is no different than saying communication isn’t all that important. The thing that makes us one flesh should have high priority in our marriages!

The use of Scripture is actively employed throughout the book and this is one of it’s strong points. Scripture is always key when presenting opinions on topics of any nature!

My favorite part of the book, is when Phyllis shares a story about how a woman shares that her sex life with her husband decreased because her libido was on the “low side”. Phyllis pointed out, “What would you say if your husband didn’t treat you kindly because his kindness was on the low side?” Excellent point which was then rounded out with the fact that sex is a part of the marriage covenant and should be upheld as much as anything else in marriage!

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I had major issues with the fact anal sex was covered and seemingly condoned. I suppose the Hills would blame this on the leaders in the church who have made the dirty to me, and thus warped my thinking and put me in bondage (which thrills “The Darkness”) but I hold to strong opinions this does not have place in a pure and godly marriage. While I can see references to oral sex in the Song of Songs, I do not see references to anal sex, and thus, in my mind, this is not something God has set up for a husband and wife to participate in.

I also had major issues–which made me down right angry—in which the Hills stated that IF a spouse was going to be involved in pornography it was best if the other spouse got involved too. Although they give their reasons for such a ludicrous statement, these statements do not line up with the truth of Scripture such as “Be ye holy for I am holy” and “Abstain from sexual immorality”!!! Perhaps the Hills have not come into contact who have been in strong addiction and bondage to pornography so that such a statement makes sense to them. ? I simply cannot for the life of me understand how Christian authors could say such a thing. This is no different than saying that if one spouse is going to be involved in adultry the other spouse might as well participate too. Or gambling. . . or cocaine addiction.

This viewpoint causes me to shudder at the thought of who’s hands this book will fall into. Those who are not as familiar with God’s commands to sexual purity within the pages of Scripture will fall to such lies and drag their marriage partner in with them. And then, yes, “The Darkness” as the Hills so fondly wrote of as being happy that people are in sexual bondage, will rejoice, thus doing the very thing the Hills are trying to fight against with their book.

Sex In Marriage is Not OK – It’s Amazing! is not a book that I would recommend. Instead, those that could use a sexual spark within their marriage would do better to read a book like