Week 2 of the Maximized Lifestyle

Week 1

I’ve gotten behind on this, due to the site move. And due to a crazy life. How is that for irony? A crazy life has caused me to get behind on a series about living the maximized life. :-/

I have changed that however. I have re-evaluated my life and what my life purpose is and made some changes accordingly. And that’s where this post comes in.

The first step on the journey to an organized, maximized life, is to know your life purpose beyond a shadow of a doubt. Then, when things come up, you can say “No!” if they don’t fall under that purpose and you can say “Yes!” if they do.

Figuring out your life purpose

Get a pen and paper.

Do you have it?  Don’t go further until you have it.

Ok, ready? Answer the following questions:

~ What do you love to do?

~ What are you good at doing?

~ If you could change the world, what would it look like?

Don’t take this lightly. Really think through this. This is how it looks for me:

1.  I love to write and read. I love to share what I learn. I love being Mama. I love being a wife. I love  mentoring younger women. I love passing on the hope I have found as an abuse/eating disorder/self injury survivor. I love to give others encouragement when they are faced with the pain of infertility and loss. I love to live a healthy lifestyle. I love to learn. I love to garden and live as natural as possible.

2. I am good at writing. I’m good at loving people. I’m good at encouraging. I am gifted in counseling and mentoring. I’m good at being real and authentic and transparent for the purpose of helping others through their pain.I’m good at asking the questions that need asking.

3.  An ideal world to me would be children free of abuse and neglect and parents who know how to love each other and love their children. It would be young men and women, wives and husbands, moms and dads, kids, grandparents–everyone–free to be everything God created them to be.

Putting it all Together

Do you have your three questions filled out?  Now, put it all together into one statement that is one to three sentences long. Here is mine (created in 2008)

I will use my thirst for knowledge and my passion for sharing what I learn,by mentoring and writing, in order to teach and encourage others to live as God crated them to be, in the lives He intended them to live.

This, is my life purpose. It extends first to my husband, as I seek to learn all I can to provide a peaceful, smoothly running home, so he can be all God intends him to be.

It extends next to my daughter.

After that to my daycare kids and the young women God brings my way. Then, those I write to, via my writing.

When things come up, I see if they match my life purpose. Writing on this site does, so therefore, I do it. Preschool does, therefore, I take the time to preschool every day. Learning does, therefore I take the time to read books daily.

Maximizing our calling

I break it down further. How can I best maximize what I am called to do?

Take writing for example. Writing does fit my life purpose. However, being a successful, make-money blogger does not.  And I had that confused for awhile. My goal became about getting products to review and a widely enough read blog to make money off of. Then I started this series and I remembered what my purpose is. To write in order to share what I learn, not to make money. So. . . I shut down my blog that I had spent three years building. It was sad but it was also freeing. Suddenly, I no longer had to do something I wasn’t called to do, which freed me up to focus on what I was called to do!

When I write to make money I lose the love for it. It becomes a stressor on my to-do list. Something that hovers over me nagging away until it’s done.

When I write to share what’s in my heart I can write for hours each day. It pushes me out of bed at 4:30 in the morning because it’s a call in my heart that needs to be answered.

That’s what living the maximized life is about – - living out of passion and purpose, not oughts and shoulds.

What is your life purpose? What do you need to cut out to fill that life purpose? What might you need to add in, to fulfill it?

Share with us:

Melissa Siggy

Living the Maximized Life – Part 2

This is a part of the series, Living the Stream-Lined, Maximized Life. You can find the Introduction to this series at the following link:

Part 1

As women, we carry the weight of the world on our shoulders. Whether we work in the home as a stay at home mom, juggle a career with motherhood or are an empty-nester who’s life is full of volunteering opportunities and/or a job, it is rare for a woman to not feel that every single minute of her day is jam packed. In fact, many of us wake up every morning feeling completely overwhelmed at all that is on our to-do list and fall into bed each night feeling as if our day was lived in chaos and we have little to show for it.

Frustration is rampant, satisfaction rare. That old cliche of feeling like a hampster caught on a wheel rings true for us every single day.

Every Sunday night, we look at our lists of all we hope to accomplish and have some sort of hope that, “This week will get off to a great start” and then, Monday morning hits, and we’ve already fallen behind by noon. Yet another week finds us in tears or extreme irritable living, with nothing but half finished tasks. It seems as if everything got 10% of us and nothing got 100%.

As the years pass and my home fills with children/young women coming through my door on a regular basis, I am learning how to live an ordered life despite all the demands on my time.

I know that some of you are going to cringe and quit reading now because that goes against your innate personality. You’re the free spirits of the world. Flexibility and spontaneity are your gifts and hearing that a schedule of sorts might be in order, already makes you feel as if you are going to lose your soul.

Trust me, it won’t. In fact, you may find more of yourself because of it.

Those of you who have the same personality I have (or curse, depending on how you look at it), hear about living an ordered life and your mind quickens with anticipation. Creating an organized life is right up your alley. Just the words alone make you feel as if maybe life will be all that you’ve hoped it could be.

Your issue isn’t not liking order or knowing how to create schedule and routine. Your issue is going to be learning how to let some things go and not put them on your schedule. You don’t need to learn how to create lists. You need to learn how to keep your lists minimized!

So what does the Type A personality and what does the Histrionic personality, gain from seeking how to live a Stream-Lined Life?

Both will:

~ Find their life purpose. They will know what they are called to do. They will learn how to say yes to the things that fulfill their purpose, and let all the rest go.

~ Make their life simpler in the end. Having a month’s worth of menus will not only save time in trying to figure out meals day by day, it will also save money because you will only buy what you need.

~ It will teach your children, not only order, but stress free living. Instead of modeling a jam-packed life with chaos that accomplishes little, you will be modeling a life that lives to the fullest and accomplishes much!

~ More time for children and spouse. The more ordered your life the more time you have to spend on the relationships that are important – because they are given high priority, both in your day-timer and in your mind.

~ Few things will get 100% of you instead of many things only getting 10% of you.

~ Peace

~ A sense of accomplishment and well being.

~ Productivity

~ A reason to get up every morning. Living out a calling instead of being driven by “oughts” and “shoulds” that only drain us dry.

~ Learning more about ourselves. What do we truly love to do, what are our weak points, what are our strong points? What is our niche in life and what are we doing just because we feel obligated?

Sometime, between now and January, go out and by a nice, fat three ring binder with two packages of tabbed section dividers. You many want some pocket folders while you’re at it and even a pen/pencil bag to put into it. Ideally, buy a binder that you can create a cover for and insert into the front of it. We don’t won’t ugly and bulky, since this is going to be our “brains” as my husband calls mine. At the same time, organization requires some space, so you will need to be a nice size binder.

The task of developing the stream-lined life isn’t exactly a small task in the beginning. There are some things to hash out with ourselves and sometimes, an actual crisis point to reach, as we have to decide what to let go and what to keep.

The first time a month’s worth of menus are created it will seem like the never ending task and creating our binder system will seem like a hassle. But as someone who has “been there, done that” in the past year, I can promise you, the initial investment will be worth it. The time invested now, will ultimately save you time in coming weeks and months. As the old Lao-Tzu proverb states, “A journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step”. Give yourself the gift of that first step every morning for a few months and what takes work in the beginning will become second nature by the third month. A second nature that results in a fully, maximized life, something every single one of us long for.

Blessings!

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